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Tips on Preparing for Marriage or Relationship Counseling

Taking the step to work on your relationship can be scary. You may not know what to expect when you enter therapy. Here are some tips that may help you and your significant other get the most out relationship counseling:

Tip #1- The sooner a couple enters counseling when difficulties arise, the better. All too often, people wait until they are on the verge of ending the relationship before seeking help. Counseling can still be effective in these circumstances, but why wait for this to happen? It can be empowering to take charge of your issues, instead of allowing them to drive you and your loved one apart.

Tip #2- Motivation is one of the most important factors in determining the effectiveness of your therapy. Entering counseling only to appease your significant other does not work. If your current motivation to improve your relationship is low, give it a boost before entering therapy, or during the early stages of counseling. This can be done by making the choice to find something positive your partner brings to the relationship, finding new, relaxed activities to do with them, and remembering why you fell in love in the first place.

Tip #3- Don’t think of your problem as “unfixable”. Research shows that it is not the severity of problems that predict a couple’s longevity and relationship satisfaction, it is the way they communicate about their problems that is important. Your therapist will teach you effective communication skills that can help you build trust and reconnect with your loved one.

Article by: Michelle Oczki, M.S., LIMHP

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